Here’s a tidbit about my daughter, Zee: did you know that, at 4 years old, she hasn’t been completely weaned from the bottle?
Actually, hubby and I tried to feed her milk from a cup when she turned 4 last year. Well, the thing is, we’re living in my parents’ house and they’re the ones taking care of my kid while we’re at work. To cut the long story short, whenever my daughter wants dede, they’d give it to her, pronto.
I’ve told them, and not just once, to teach her to drink from the cup (using a straw). But they — particularly my dad — would take pity on my daughter when she cries when she wants to drink milk from the bottle. Take note, this bottle-feeding only happens during weekday afternoons, when hubby and I are out for work. On weekends, we don’t give in to her pleas and tantrums for dede. We would tell her to eat if she’s hungry.
This has been going on until Friday last week. Sunday, June 1, I made it a point to stop bottle-feeding Zee altogether. So I kept her bottle in a place only I knew (not even my hubby knew where I hid it) and told my parents that from then on, my daughter will be drinking only from the cup.
Little did I expect for this to be a reason for me and my mom to have a bit of an argument over text.
Yesterday afternoon, she texted me that my daughter was crying all day because she wants her dede. I told my mom that she has to get used to drinking from the cup. She replied that it’s easy for us to say that and that we should train her to drink from the cup if we want her to learn to wean from the bottle. And so I replied that during weekends and even weeknights, before she goes to bed with us, we don’t give her dede even if she asks us. (Short of saying that “you’re the ones giving her dede, not us”.)
Hays, it’s really hard not to be a united front when it comes to raising my kid. All I want is a little help from them to observe and sustain certain rules. Zee’s turning 5 by the end of this month. She has to learn that she has to grow up a bit and not be too much of a baby anymore (what with another one coming soon). But it’s hard when there are the grandparents who are spoiling the child (even if they deny doing so).
I get it, grandparents have a tendency to spoil their grandchildren. I’ve experienced that with my lola, growing up with her at home. But there comes a certain point that they have to realize that the parents have a bigger say in how to raise their children. Not because we want to deprive them, but because we want to teach them that they can’t have everything they want. And believe me, it will benefit them in the future.
My mom and I haven’t really talked about what happened yesterday. I still haven’t told them where I kept the bottle, too, and I don’t have plans of putting it out. I just hope that my parents understand what I want to teach my daughter soon enough. And I hope they support hubby and my decision, too. Soon.