Personal Musings: He Don’t Bring Me Flowers

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Yesterday, Valentine’s Day. It’s this day wherein people give and receive flowers and gifts. In my office, the HR department prepared a Valentine’s surprise that included a red rose and a bag of chocolates (with corny hugot quotes).

Yeah, I got a flower from the office peeps on Valentine’s Day. But not from my husband.

He’s actually never given me one, save from that time when we were still in the boyfriend-girlfriend stage. (There was one time, we were already married, that he got a rose from the bouquet of his officemate — that’s not counted because he didn’t buy it, LOL!) But that’s not because he’s not sweet or anything.

I just don’t like receiving flowers.

I don’t know, maybe I feel like it doesn’t really do me much, haha! Bouquets look nice, but then once they wilt, I’d just throw them away. In the end, they don’t have any use for me (except maybe make people envious? Hahaha!).

Flowers get expensive on Valentine’s Day, too. Heard in the news yesterday that a bouquet of roses sold in Dangwa reached Php 700! Goodness! For Php 700, both hubby and I would have enjoyed a buffet at a Korean BBQ restaurant.

Remember the Filipino folk song “Ako Ay May Lobo”? That’s what I relate Valentine’s Day with. The line, “Sa pagkain sana / Nabusog pa ako,” resonates with me very well. If hubby were to buy me anything for Valentine’s Day, food is priority.

Sometimes I think I’m a man. Because, you know, the way to my heart is through my stomach. LOL!

But seriously, I’d rather my hubby spend for something that I’d enjoy — that we’d both enjoy. Maybe it’s the practical individual in me talking (or the foodie).

Some people won’t understand it. But I guess when you get a bit older and your priorities change, you realize the value your money brings.

Besides, there are other ways to show your love. Hugs, kisses, words of encouragement, a listening ear, patience, understanding. No money involved, but their effects are amazing.

Flowers? To each his or her own. But not for me.

But that doesn’t mean he didn’t give me anything. In fact, he gave me something that I really, really love: a pack of Flat Tops.

See, he understands that the way to my heart is through my stomach. And I love him for that. 🙂



  1. tienan donabel Gabaldon

    Whoa! My hubby doesn’t give me flowers anymore, my fault actually. During our BFGF days, there was a time he gave me a bouquet, then i said “hindi ko naman makakain yan!” ayun, he never gave me flowers na. Hahah.. until now we’re married, ayaw na nya eh gusto ko na. :p

    4 years ago
    • Michelle

      Sineryoso na yata niya talaga sinabi mo. 😛 Siguro pwedeng magparinig? Hahaha! Like when you see a couple tapos the girl has a bouquet, you can tell him na “ang ganda ng flowers niya” or “sana ako rin may ganun.” The latter’s more direct, though, baka he’d pick that up. 😀

      Belated happy Valentine’s Day to you and your hubby. 🙂

      4 years ago
  2. Jhanis

    Hahahah! I can totally relate. The first time my husband (he was still my bf then) gave me a flower (long stemmed rose) was when we were still in college and OMG, he wrapped it in newspaper and stuffed it in his back-pocket! It was wilted and ugly when I opened it. Ugh! Since then, he has given me 3 more times (not wilted anymore! LOL) in our almost 14 years of being married because I always scold him about wasting money. LOL

    4 years ago
    • Michelle

      Sayang yung long-stemmed rose, hahaha! Expensive pa naman yun. Still, I think it’s sweet of him to give you flowers kahit on rare occasions. My hubby doesn’t bother anymore kasi. He knows I’d prefer a buffet than a bouquet, LOL!

      4 years ago

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