The “school” issue

Posted on - in Life, Motherhood

It’s something that’s been bugging me for months. I’ve been browsing search engines and forums for answers or, at the very least, hints.

My daughter is now 2 and a half years old. By end of June, she’s 3 years old. And that means it’s time for her to go to school.

I’m not quite sure if it’s something I’ve been holding back. I think I’m in denial that my daughter is growing up — and fast.

And right now, I’m panicking. For a number of reasons.

1. A lot of kids her age are enrolled in classes, whether in nursery or playschool. My daughter’s just at home, learning what she can with the books we gave and the guidance of her grandparents. There’s this feeling in me that my daughter’s starting a bit late with schooling. I dunno.

I recall I was 5 turning 6 when I was formally enrolled in a school. Prior to that, I was a “saling pusa” in my sister’s nursery class. She was 3 or 4 that time. Which makes me around 2 or 3 years old then.

So Zee’s probably late…?

2. Tuition. Have you seen how much it costs to put your child in school? PHP40-70K! That’s not counting books and uniform. My head is going “S__T!” Hubby and I don’t earn big. But then again, we weren’t earning big when we started saving up for our wedding some years ago. It took us a year to save up for the big day. This would probably be the same. Except that we didn’t have to pay for milk, vitamins, and diapers for the baby. Hmm…

3. Who will bring Zee to school? While my daughter’s being taken care of by my parents, I can’t expect them to be the ones taking her to school everyday. They’re senior citizens, plus my dad’s health condition doesn’t allow him to do strenuous stuff every day. My mom — well, let’s just say she isn’t that street smart like my dad. Plus the fact that they’re expecting one of us (hubby or me) to be the one bringing her to school everyday. She is our responsibility anyway, not theirs.

We’re both working morning shifts. Hubby sometimes goes overtime when needed. My time isn’t that flexible, either. And we don’t have a yaya.

Unless we can earn enough to cover our annual expenses with either of us staying at home (the probability is that it would be me), we can’t let go of our day jobs.

Dang. All these things are occupying my mind right now. And it’s making me feel anxious, uncomfortable, restless.


I really wonder how some people manage to pull it off. I mean, they don’t earn much yet they can send their kids to school.

Hmm… it probably boils down to managing priorities.

Management ain’t my best asset, though.

Then again, the situation calls for it. So I have no choice but…


I’ve been browsing the web for some schools near our place. I haven’t made any calls yet. Probably within the weekend. Hopefully they’re open.

For now, I just want a school that can teach my kid to follow rules, play with kids — you know, some really baby stuff. Hopefully, it’s a school that has a good environment and good teachers — and rates that are pretty affordable.

Dang, why can’t schools be affordable these days?


Hmm, I think I’ve let out a lot. I don’t feel any better, though.

Post ends here for now. Let’s see how things go about. Hopefully, before the month ends, I’d have some answers and solutions to these apprehensions and questions in my mind.


  1. Yam Yam

    haaaay… same problem here with my niece.. she’s also 2 and a half years old… and i feel that she’s behind. know why? one of my cousin’s two year old speaks fluent english!!!! what the?!?!!?! my mom’s currently scouting for a pre-school for her and dang! 100k ++ ??? a year!!!! for cripes’ sakes for a good school! of course we have to consider chinese subjects too… :s


    10 years ago
    • moonchild117

      chinese ba kayo, sis? yeah, it’s hard to look for a school that’s kinda affordable now. the big schools, usually the exclusive ones, charge around 100K for pre-school lang.

      don’t worry about your kid not being able to speak fluently at 2 and a half. my daughter can speak a few sentences, pero may times na bulol pa rin. it really depends on the child’s development. you can expose her to books and a bit of TV (my daughter’s a fan of Nick Jr., doon siya natuto ng ilang words and phrases). you can read to her every night or during playtime, ask her questions (what color is this? or what shape is this?) then teach her the answers. repetition lang ang kelangan. ๐Ÿ™‚

      10 years ago
      • Yam Yam

        yes sis we are…
        yep it’s so hard to look for a good affordable school. i’m not really that hands on with her since i’m in the office the whole day. My mom looks after her. my niece started staying at our house because my sis is always at work (doctor) and her husband is working out of town so they ended up staying at our house. It’s my mom who’s doing the planning for my 2 nieces (a 1 yr old and the 2 yr old). she used to be quiet but started to be chatty since she came to live at our house.

        I’m also trying to teach her how to at least “draw” numbers. hahaha.. .goodluck to me…

        You’re right, we should really expose them to children shows. i’m scouting for DVDs to ensure that she watches good ones. mahirap pag plain TV baka mag channel somewhere and she end up learning bad stuff… sigh… hirap pala talaga ng may kids, at this point hindi pa akin yan… hahahah

        10 years ago
  2. Ivy

    Hi! It’s been a while since my last visit (had an uncomfortable pregnancy, had the baby, and then things are finally settling down a bit).
    We’re homeschooling, but I frequently tell my husband that if it hadn’t been our preference, we’d be forced into it anyway since we probably can’t afford a private school. ๐Ÿ™

    10 years ago
    • Yam Yam

      Hi Ivy… i think home schooling has its perks din naman since you’ll have plenty of bonding time with your child and you’ll be able guide to your child every step of the way… but i’m thinking, the child should also learn to interact with other children diba?

      10 years ago
    • moonchild117

      hi, ivy! congrats on the baby. ๐Ÿ™‚

      paano yung homeschooling, did you get a tutor for your kid? mahal nga magpaaral ngayon, ano? pero gusto ko rin sana ipasok yung daughter ko sa regular school or kahit yung tipong play school lang for now, pero sana yung mura lang. like yam yam, i also want to expose my child to other kids and teach her how to interact with them. pang-develop ng social skills kumbaga. hays, andaming worries pag nasa school age na ang kids, ano?

      10 years ago
  3. Kris

    domps, don’t be pressured into sending her to school. hubby and i tried with joey when he was three but I felt it was too early – i preferred that he stay home, play with other kids, eat and sleep and watch TV when he wants to. He started going to school only last year, at four years old. Still a little early if you ask me. I entered nursery when I was five, left school for a year and totally skipped prep because I didn’t like it (I went straight to grade school when I came back). And I think I turned out okay, if I may say so myself. Just teach her yourself for now. Joey learned his ABCs, numbers, basic math and a bit of reading just from me. ๐Ÿ˜€

    10 years ago
    • moonchild117

      thanks, kris. medyo naloka lang ako na a lot of moms nowadays send their kids to school at as early as 2 years old. naisip ko nga rin e, i formally entered schooling when i was 5 years old (not counting the saling-pusa days when my ate was in nursery). though gusto ko ilagay si zee sa parang play school, as in yung puro laro lang, kasi wala talaga siyang nakakasalamuhang bata. pang-socializing lang. marunong na rin siya mag-ABC at mag-count to 20 in english (marunong ding magbilang ng 1-10 in spanish, thanks to dora, haha!). right now, she’s into mock reading. ๐Ÿ˜›

      10 years ago
  4. claire

    i often this kind of story from my sisters who have toddlers na rin. good luck to you. i hope makahanap ka ng best school for your baby.

    10 years ago

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